Being Adopted Affects My Life
No matter what age, the adoption takes place it will always have an effect on the person or in better terms the adoptee. There are seven different types of characteristics in which adoption has an effect. There is the loss, rejection, shame, grief, identity, intimacy, and control.
Although there are adoptions that take place when the child is too young to understand, loss is still present and affects the mind subconsciously. Loss that is unattended to would stay with the adopted child whether it is in the subconscious or conscious state of mind. The loss is an evolving process which hinders the growth of the individual and the family development. The next characteristic is the rejection which can be devastating. In the adoption process the child goes through meeting families and then finding out they have not been chosen by them. Once they are chosen though the rejection from before is still remembered, which leads them into thinking they are not good enough. In the adoptee feels shame for being adopted. Most often, this is due to the fact of the withheld information of the adoption. In grief, this most often happens in situations where the child has been removed from their family they have been with for a while. The child may feel the grief of leaving their family even though, it was a negative environment. Without recognition of the grief it can lead to later depression in the child or even substance abuse.
It is hard as it is, finding your own identity, but it is even harder when you have no idea of where you initially came from, your background, or religion. The adoptee usually tries to find out ways to fit in and belong, especially in years of adolescents. Intimacy is one thing a person learns as young as birth. In an adopted child’s perspective they want to avoid getting close to others and committing. This is because of the fear of the This is because of the fear of the loss that they have already endured. Even the intimacy problems affect the relationships between the opposite gender and their relatives. Going through adoptive families and not being able to have control over what family that chose them, stunts the growth of self-actualization and self-control (Life Long Issues Adoption).
Adoption can have a major impact on a person. We surveyed thirty-two females and eighteen males in order to find out if they thought being adopted would affect the personality of the adoptee. Of those surveyed, two males and nine females said no. We also asked if the students if they believed that being adopted would make someone different from those who were not adopted. Out of these teenagers twelve males and twenty-seven said no. Six males and five females said yes to the question.