
Raising a child isn't an easy thing to do. Raising a child
while the parents are still in their teens is even harder. Dealing with the
day to day chores that involves a baby and trying to work and get an education
is very stressful on any teen.
Trying to work, go to school, raise a baby and still
having some growing up to do is nowhere near easy. Dealing with a checkbook,
a husband, a newborn, a job and finishing school at sixteen was hard. I managed,
just like many other teen moms but I do wish things could have been easier so
I could have enjoyed my first born even more, without all the added stress.
A teen mom often deals with becoming stereotypical in the eyes of those around
her, strangers, friends and all. Many people don't wish to acknowledge the fact
that it only takes once to get pregnant, which may very well be the case for
the girl in question. Yet many people will look at her as lowly, assuming she
got pregnant on purpose and slept around often. Her parenting skills are doubted,
even if she follows the most popular of the parenting experts.
Closer to home, teen moms have to deal with relationship
problems that may not be such a problem for a mom to be who has been in a relationship
for a longer period of time. Boyfriends tend to drop out of the picture or promise
to be around, only to leave later. Often the mom will realize he isn't the best
person in the world to be a dad, so she doesn't push the issue. Child support
is a problem, since most young dads, like the mom, are still in school or not
making very much at work. There are some great teen dads out there but unfortunately,
they are few and far between.
If the mom decides to stay with her parents, she deals
with relationship issues on this front too. All to often grandparents want to
take over. How can they not? It's extremely hard to step back and let your teen
parent another child while you know they're so young, especially if the parenting
styles they have aren't what the grandparents practiced on their own children.
Babysitting, parenting styles, doubting the ability of the teen-- All these
can truly affect a teen mom in a negative way.
Finishing school and working to support a baby is also
a big problem. In today's world, a college degree is almost a must for any good
paying job. A high school education is even more important. If a teen mom still
has to go to school and work, she has very little time to be a mother. The worst
part of it all, is that usually, that's what a teen mom really wants to be.
Most teen moms don't want to be part of the statistics. They don't want to be
looked down on. They do want to take care of their child, or children, in hopes
that they grow up to be strong people. They also want to show the world that
they can be a good parent.