do you know who you
Friendship: Values and
How do you know who your friends are?
What is a friend?
What is the difference between an acquaintance and a friend?
having friends necessary?
What do you value in a friend?
People are friends because they either help each
have fun together or have the same values.
a friend is an interdependent relationship.
are degrees of friendship, and many
change over time as people change.
friend who shares your values has a better
of remaining your friend over time.
friends is important for mental health.
- Hook: Ask students to write down the name of a good
friend/best friend. Then have
them describe the person and why they are friends.
- Volunteer group
share, while starting a class chart: Friends:
What makes one?
- Introduce the
- Share personal
- Ask them for
questions they have about friendship (the focused EQ)
Are they friends? Ditto (agree/disagree)
- Do Now:
Write the names of up to 5 friends in your notebook.
- Share homework
- Tell students we
are going to explore “What is a friend?”
- Mini-lesson on
Aristotle’s definition of a friend (Nicomachean Ethics)
See Aristotle section of this site.
- Ask students to
return to list of 5 friends and categorize them as to type (U=usefulness,
P=pleasure V=moral goodness ala Aristotle)(briefwrite to answer question and
- Create a class
graph of the types of friendships kids have.
Do the same activity for an adult, so we can graph the results and
compare kid and adult friendships.
- Ask for
prediction they have regarding the adult responses and differences that
- Collect data from
homework re: adult friendships and add to the graph (bar graph to show the
- In notebook, ask
students to respond to what they think the data suggests OR their general
reaction to the data.
- Whole group:
share their reactions, questions, and comments.
- Ask small group
question: Do you agree with
Aristotle’s definition or not? What
issues or questions do you have? Is
there anything about friendship that he doesn’t address?
- Report out to
whole class, making a list of questions not addressed by Aristotle.
Write the Definition of a Friend
for a “working definition” of a friend from the homework.
Use one student response as the bones, and add to it from others.
write the working definition on the What is a Friend split page.
about using what something ISN’T to define something and give an example: Is a rock a friend?
group focus question: What
ISN’T a friend.
out to class and complete that section of the split page.
do we need to revise our definition? After
discussion, put appropriate definition on handout.
What is an acquaintance then?
share the responses to the bottom of the homework. Collect.
the class that someone asked “Should race or religion affect
friendship?” and “Can a friend betray you?” and that today we will
have a Socratic seminar addressing those issues.
out and read “Seventh Grade” by Lynda Barry.
- Ask: Are Lynda (narrator) and Bona friends?
If so, what kind?
Socratic seminar…asking a follow-up question of:
Which affects friendship more, race or peer pressure?
Socratic Seminar reflection.
now: In notebook, have students
return to their “best friend” from day one and tell a little about the
“history” of the friendship. When
did they meet? How did they
become friends? How long have
they been friends?
will write generalities overheard on the board.
that today we will explore: What
is the difference between an acquaintance and a friend (or at what point
does a friend become a friend?)
group task: Using the
“friendship scenarios” they are to classify the relationships on a
continuum from acquaintance to friend, then color code where the break is
from acquaintance to friend along the continuum.
groups will share their findings
class will discuss similarities and differences, with special regard to why
they all didn’t come up with the same continuum.
In notebook, respond to: what
is the difference between an acquaintance and a friend?
now: In notebook, respond to
this: “Where did your concept
of friend come from?”
that today we will explore how the media may or may not affect our concept
video clip #1 (from Shrek)
will complete a split page: depicted
concept of friend/my thinking
will see video clip # 2 (from another appropriate movie such as Winnie the
split page, and
will see video clip #3 (from another appropriate movie such as Bambi)
group focus question: What is
the media’s message about friends? How
do you think it affects your perception of a friend?
Media example of Friendship handout
will complete a mini-assessment to show their thinking about friendship to
If you are interested in the mini-assessment
for our unit, contact my teacher, Mrs. Simon at firstname.lastname@example.org.
notebook, write if you think your current best friend and you will be
friends forever? Why or why
group share and discussion.
the next essential question: Are
group focus question: What
factors do you think lead to “changing” friendships?
groups report out—make a list.
individuals place the factors on a continuum from strongest affect to least
affect and give reasons.
Interview a parent/adult about a friendship that HAS changed as to
why and write a brief description. (In notebook)
group share homework
out to whole class.
one example to focus on re: how the factors could have been different to
“keep the friendship alive.”
students to work in small groups by “factor” and come up with other
possible solutions given the factor.
Chose one of the letters (situational) and write an “advice
column” style response.
Similar to our advice column on
who chose like letters share what they wrote with each other, discussing
similarities and differences in their solutions.
notebook, have students respond to “How would your life be different if
you didn’t have friends?”
group share, teacher writes general comments on the board.
the next essential question: Is having friends necessary?
at “Hello, My Name is Scrambled Eggs.” Tuan and Harvey.
Was it necessary for Tuan to have a friend in America?
Complete a cause and effect “what if” in small group.
now: Respond to: Does the hermit need friends? Why or why not? Why
might he not want them?
select scenes from Shrek.
complete before and after sheet and evaluate if Shrek is better off before
or after the movie.
do you value in a friend? Students will write want ads for a friend and
they will be distributed anonymously (with students assigned a number)
Visit by school
16-? Performance task: Create a web site about what you learned about
friendship and what is valuable to share with others.