Tips for Divorcing Parents
This information will help parents understand how to deal with this difficult time.
1. Decide with your spouse the best way to tell your child about your decision to divorce. Try to tell him in realistic terms and be honest. If he asks an inappropriate question, let him know and don't answer.
2. Show your affection in actions not just words. Don't make promises you can't keep. Promises not kept are worse than not making plans at all. Don't try to use money to buy love for your child. Love him because you want to!
3. Let your child know that you will always be there for him and be a loving parent. Make sure that your child always has your address and telephone number in case they need you. Make sure that you can be reached at all times. Your child needs you!
4. Remember birthdays, holidays, and other special events. These times are important to your child. Show you care. If you don't, he will feel left out, especially if you have a step-child.
5. Don't get upset with your child for what your spouse has done. It is not his fault! Make sure you calm down after a fight with your spouse before you go to talk to your child. Don't make your child sad, mad, or think that it is his fault.
6. Accept that your marriage is over and move on with your life. Don't try to find out about your ex-spouses dating. If he/she gets married again, be as kind to the new family member as possible.
7. Accept that your child may have mad, worried, or upset feelings after the divorce, and let him tell these feelings to you without criticism. Being able to talk to you about what he is feeling will help your child adjust to the changes in his life.