Suggestions That Work
Everyone has ups and downs, good days and bad days. But, given the choice,
who wouldn't prefer to feel good? By using the following techniques you
can learn how to enjoy life more, and turn those bad days into good ones
in no time.
A massage or eating a wonderful meal can be physical pleasures that make
life worth living. Enjoy regular physical activity such as dancing, playing
softball or taking walks, to uplift your spirits.
A Support Network
A support network is a group of people you can turn to for comfort, a
sympathetic ear, or good ideas. A support network can include family members,
friends, coworkers, or anyone who cares about you. Reach out and make
your network wider; you'll be glad you did.
Making time for fun is like taking extra vacations throughout the year.
What are your favorite amusements? Movies, day trips into the country,
going to a fair can all be fun. Get out of your chair and get going! You'll
feel good before, during and after.
Few things give more pleasure than helping others. Find out about some
of the programs in your community that need your help. Try something unlike
any-thing you've ever done. It will enrich your life with new ideas, information
You can get in the habit of feeling good by being good to yourself and
others. When you care about yourself, you'll find that life holds more
meaning and pleasure.
Cooperate, & Understand
When it comes to personal relationships, ultimatums rarely work. Instead,
it helps to know how to give and take to negotiate. Learning to effectively
communicate, cooperate, and understand are the most effective skills we
have for successful negotiations.
In order to resolve differences or to negotiate, you must be willing to
face the other person. You don't need to be angry or accusing. But you
should be direct. Positive communicating includes honestly saying how
you feel and what you want.
"Cooperate" means "work together". To begin, suggest that each person
state the problem or situation from his or her point of view. Don't defend
your position, but listen. Ask questions if you don't understand the other
person's feelings. Next, each person can try to come up with a few ideas
for solving the conflict. If possible, suggest solutions that are "win/win."
Assume you share a common interest: the desire for a friendly outcome.
To negotiate wisely, put yourself in the other person's shoes. What would
satisfy him? What does he want? Avoid criticizing; when people feel inferior,
they get angry. When they're angry, you're less likely to get what you
care of yourself Get enough sleep, food and exercise. Avoid alcohol,
drugs, cigarettes, caffeine and sugar. You'll be better able to handle
troubles which come up.
troubles as opportunities Someone who annoys you can end up a friend,
if you let her know you'd like her help. A problem on the loading dock
may turn into a promotion if you're the one who comes up with a solution.
your time Your work load may seem heavy, but it could be that you
do unimportant things before important ones. Your supervisor may be
able to help you manage time better if you ask.
up For example, if a coworker's behavior bothers you, ask him to
stop. If you are unsure about your chances for promotion, talk to your
Planning increases your chances of achieving your goal. Perhaps you
need more advanced training. Or, you may want to plan a strategy for
changing departments or positions.
support Family, friends or coworkers can all be great sources of
support. The stronger your connections with others, the more it will
help you come up with solutions to problems.
your leisure time If you do, you'll come to work in a good state
You can choose to try to make your work situation satisfying. If there
are problems, you can choose to attempt a solution. There are many choices
open to you. Which ones will you make?