Listening To Her
Now imagine you'd spent 60 to 70 percent of the date listening to her (really listening and asking questions), and about 30 to 40 percent of the time telling her about yourself. Specifically, telling her about yourself in a way that makes the two of you seem very similar.
This time when she goes home, sits down, grabs something to drink, and starts reminiscing about the date (and you), she's going to have something substantial to think about.
She's going to think what a wonderful conversationalist you are. You didn't monopolize the conversation. You didn't bore her with details of your job, your childhood, or the health of your colon.
And because you spent a substantial amount of time pointing out how similar the two of you are, she's going to think that you are very
special. (After all, you're just like her. You must be.)
People always like others who are similar to themselves. By being similar to me, you essentially validate my perceptions of the world. I will see you as clever, intelligent, charming, and likeable... because you're like me.
It's true that opposites do sometimes
attract. But only under certain situations. On the other hand, similars
almost always attract. You should always go for the similarity angle during the first part of a relationship. You'll can reveal to her your "unique" qualities
And don't worry or feel cheated because you don't get to talk about the things you want to talk about. If you play your cards right during the first few conversations or dates, you'll have plenty of time later on to bore her with all your "interesting" stories.
The first few conversations (dates) are critical and you have to "play" them right. That means listening for free info, asking interested questions, and making "me too" statements. It's a simple 1, 2, 3.
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the very informative Don Juan Center at: http://www.globalmarketing.nu
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