Feelings Of Guilt
If you are the one initiating the breakup, you will feel at least some guilt. To break up with someone is one of the meanest things you can possibly do to anyone, ever.
Breaking up with someone is not just rejection, it is much more than that. To be rejected by someone you have shared your thoughts with, someone who you love deeply, is heart wrenching indeed.
It is just like saying, "I've seen the kind of person who you are and I don't think you're the one for me. Go away."
Why Feel Guilty?
In order to exorcise these feelings of guilt during your breakup, just tell yourself that:
- You are actually helping her because you have avoided a messy divorce if both of you had been married.
- You are the one that is bringing her happiness as she does not deserve a jerk like you.
- You are giving her independence and she no longer will be trapped in a relationship doomed to failure.
- She can now concentrate on building a successful career and when she is a billionaire, she will thank you for it.
These suggestions are all rather extreme but believe me, they work wonders getting rid of those pesky feelings of guilt I have whenever I'm about to break up with someone.
The bottom line is this. You are the one who is doing her a favor and so you should not feel guilty at all. Of course, this is only from the dumper's perspective. The dumpee does not view it this way at all.
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