Imagine this. You see this gorgeous woman sitting at the table next to you. Your heart pumps, your pulse quickens. You quickly think of what to say to her. You try to get up and walk over, but for some reason an invisible force holds you back. You try to move your legs. They're as heavy as lead. You curse your inability to overcome your fear of rejection. She gets up and walks away; leaving you. Perhaps forever. You want to kick yourself. In a vain attempt to correct matters, you wait at that same spot days after, hoping that she will return.
Fear Of Rejection
"It's the things you don't say that you regret the most" Look at it this way. Just imagine yourself unhappy because for one split second, you hesitated and threw away the chance to start something together. Your whole life down the drain.
For your whole life, you'll be asking yourself "And what if..." "If only I had the guts to..." You'll be miserable as you'll keep questioning yourself, thinking of things that might have been. You see, if you had at least asked herself out, you'll know that you tried and time will heal your soul. You'll be able to look back and laugh the whole thing off. "Hah! What an idiot I was back then. Imagine, I dared to ask the Prom Queen out. Boy, that was fun." So go. Take a chance. You'll never get another one again.
"Just do it" Sounds easy doesn't it but we all know it isn't since all of us, at one point in our lives, have struggled with overcoming rejection. My advice is to just do it and get it over with. According to my friend who served in Korea, "Asking women out on a date is just like killing people. After a few times, you forget why you got so -scared in the first place." A gruesome analogy, but a truthful one nevertheless.
Okay. Okay. Don't switch off the computer and rush down to ask your one true love out just yet. If you don't know anything about asking a girl out, you can't possibly hope to succeed. Before you go out and do something rash, read up on the next chapter.
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