Personal relationships are extremely important to an ISFJ. They are giving, loving and caring. ISFJs take their commitments seriously, and seek for life-long relationships.

ISFJs as Lovers

ISFJs have very intense feelings, which are not immediately apparent to others. Because of their intense feelings, close relationships become the most important thing in their lives, An ISFJ can be depended upon to loyal to their mates once a commitment is made. ISFJs have difficulty in leaving relationships that have turned bad, thinking that it was all their own fault. They have a hard time in accepting the fact that a relationship is over. Sometimes they might even remain faithful to their deceased partners.

An ISFJ might be taken advantage of because of their selflessness, causing depression to himself. They need to learn to meet their own needs.

ISFJs tend to show their love and affection through their actions, instead of words, and depend on their partner’s responding affirmations.

Sometimes, ISFJs think that conflict would end their relationships, and are reluctant to face it. They need to understand that it is not necessarily the ISFJ’s fault. It is common for ISFJs not to express their feelings until they suddenly explode in anger and say things that they would regret later. These outbursts can be reduced by expressing their feelings more regularly.

ISFJs treat the comfort of their mates and families as the first priority in life. They have an unusual depth of caring, which is great for satisfying the needs of others. They are affectionate lovers.

ISFJs as Parents

An ISFJ sees parent hood as a duty. ISFJs are responsible parents. They try hard to meet their children’s practical needs and teach them observations and rules of our society, so that they would grow up to become responsible and independent members of the society.

ISFJs may have difficulties in disciplining their children. They can usually overcome this, due to their strong sense of duty.

ISFJs usually put in a lot of energy and effort to raise their children well and does not give themselves credit for doing so. If their children grow into “problem adults”, ISFJ parents would blame themselves, although this is usually not all their fault.

ISFJs are ideal parents. Their children will be brought up with structure, appropriate guidelines and a lot of warmth and affection. They will remember their parents efforts and will be thankful for their parents loving nature.

ISFJs as Friends Although an ISFJ is likely to place family above friends in their priorities, they also like to spend time with their friends. They like to discuss problems with friends rather than family.

ISFJ spend time mostly with different types of people. They enjoy observing people’s emotions. ISFJs are quiet people, and do not open up much. However, they need friends to talk their problems over, so they usually have some very close friends. ISFJs usually relate with other ISFJs. Friends of an ISFJ will value his dependability, emotional awareness and understanding.

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