ESTJs are very enthusiastic, and fulfill their obligations and duties, especially those towards their families. They generally put God first, family second, and friends third.

As lovers

They will put in a lot of effort to fulfill their commitment to the relationship., and will respect their partner's contributions. ESTJs are likely to be robust, enthusiastic, and athletic. The ESTJ will need to remember to express their feelings verbally. In many ways, ESTJs are Guardians and Protectors by nature. Conversely, the ESTJ freely gives approval and affirmation when they are happy or impressed with their mate's behavior. Whether positive or negative, the ESTJ's expression can be taken at face value, because these individuals are very honest and forthright about how the feel. ESTJs enjoy spending time with others socializing, and are likely to strongly desire that their partners also take part in these social activities. They are especially interested in any event which is associated with the family, work, or any organization which the ESTJ is part of. The ESTJ gladly performs their duties in life, and wants to be appreciated for doing so. Although two well-developed individuals of any type can enjoy a healthy relationship, ESTJ's natural partner is the ISTP, or the INTP. ESTJ's dominant function of Extraverted Thinking is best matched with someone whose dominant function is Introverted Thinking. The ESTJ/ISTP combination is deal because it also shared the Sensing way of perceiving the world, but the ESTJ/INTP combination is also quite good.

ESTJs as Parents

ESTJs take their parenting responsibilities seriously, and enjoy the roles and duties which they are consequently presented with. The ESTJ sees parenthood as a natural state, and welcomes the opportunity to fulfill their basic obligation to pass on their genes, and to raise children to be responsible, independent adults. ESTJs usually expect that parents should be parents, and children should be children. There is likely to be that parent-child barrier between the ESTJ and their kids, and they are likely to expect that their children will treat them with respect and honor. ESTJs also do not have much tolerance for inefficiency or messiness. Consequently, ESTJ parents may have a difficult time with their children who have Intuitive or Perceiving preferences. This impatience with other types is a potential downfall for the ESTJ which may manifest itself in an ugly way if the rift occurs with their own children. The ESTJ should remember that what is right for them is not necessarily right for their children. Whatever difficulties an ESTJ may experience with their child, they will always accept that child back as their own. Children of the ESTJ will usually remember them as dependable, reliable, strict, traditional, and always willing to sacrifice themself for the sake of their children.

ESTJs as Friends

Although ESTJs typically put their family above their friends, they do enjoy and value their friendships. ESTJs will have little patience with people who seem frivolous or extremely untraditional. Conversely, those who live entirely in the current moment (Sensing Perceivers) may not appreciate the ESTJ's strong judgements, which may seem overly traditional to them. ESTJs are likely to bond best with other ESTJ, or with people of any type, if they share a common interest or goal. ESTJs tend to be enthusiastic, sharp, and witty.

The ESTJ is generally very opinionated, and likes to appear authoritative and in charge. They may temper this tendency when around other ESTJs whom they value.

Produced for Thinkquest Internet Challenge 2000.

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