ENFJs put a lot of effort and enthusiasm into their relationships. To some extent, ENFJs defines themselves by the closeness and authenticity of their personal relationships, and are therefore highly invested in the business of relationships. When a situation calls for it, the ENFJ will become very sharp and critical.

ENFJs as Lovers

ENFJs are warm, committed lovers, and since relationships are central to the ENFJ's life, they will be very involved with their intimate relationships. ENFJs are very interested in the happiness and satisfaction of their partner, and are intensely and enthusiastically involved in their personal relationships. A problem area for ENFJs in relationships is their very serious dislike of conflict. Although two well-developed individuals of any type can enjoy a healthy relationship, ENFJ's natural partner is the INFP, or the ISFP. ENFJ's dominant function of Extraverted Feeling is best matched with a partner whose dominant function is Introverted Feeling. An ENFJ and INFP are ideally matched, because they share the Intuitive way of looking at the world, but the ENFJ and ISFP are also a very good match.

ENFJs as Parents

ENFJs take their parenting role very seriously. They think that it is their responsibility to make sure that their children turn out well. This characteristic, combined with the ENFJ's definite values and ideas about the way things should be, usually makes the ENFJ parent rather strict. The ENFJ's life focus is relationships, with a bit of effort, it will be possible for the ENFJ to balance their need to pass their values and ideals down to their children with their children's need to develop as individuals.

The ENFJ will put forth a good amount of effort to make their children's home environment warm, comforting and cheerful. ENFJ parents may have problems with their children as they reach puberty. Their children will need more space at that age, and will begin to resent the over-protective tendencies of the ENFJ. This problem will be magnified in situations where the ENFJ is very manipulative. Usually, the ENFJ has nothing but the best intentions with regards to their children.

ENFJs as Friends

They place a lot of importance on their close friendships, and has loyalty towards their friends. They may sometimes turn their friendships into another task or responsibility. Usually, however, they get a lot of enjoyment from their friendships, and give back a lot of affirming warmth.

Because they don't give things freely, but they expect something in return, and they have a difficult time believing anything bad about someone close to them, they may sometimes have problems with friendship.

ESFJs are valued by others for their genuine interest in people, and for their warmth and kind-heartedness. They usually have a relatively large number of very close friends, usually of all different personality types.

Produced for Thinkquest Internet Challenge 2000.

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