The first thing you want to think about before you go into a love affair is do you really love that person. If you don't then it's really not love at all. Now the first sign that he/she is being unfair is if they are calling you names, blaming other things on you that you had no idea about, drinking all the time, stopping you from going to work or school, or forcing you to do drugs, drinking or smoking. Those signs mean that he or she is not into you or does not faithfully love you any more. Other signs are hitting, slapping, punching, kicking, or raping you. If this goes on I suggest that you leave, most leave and the relationship will end there.
Abuse begins when the woman feels she must have the situation under control. Soon her anger is rising after each time she is beaten. The man may know that her behavior is different because she feels that she needs to leave this relationship although most may have already left. The man then will start to feel jealous and start to abuse their relationship. The woman will realize the abuse and want to leave the relationship most time she will. While the abuse is going on she or he will not understand each other's anger. Soon the man will want to hurt the woman and teach her a lesson so she will not do it again. Soon the woman will release her anger and want to fight back. After this ,couples will break up and they do not get back together.
In two days or two weeks or more the man will stop his violence. But once in a while the man will wake up and start to beat the woman for no reason. When a mother is abused the kid will see her being abused or crying. The kid will probably get into his dad's habit and will soon abuse thier wifes and kids. Like most kids everywhere they don't tell the police because they are scared that no one will believe them.
The woman will not tell any one of her injuries and not tell her mate anything. Soon both the man and woman will make up and say that they are sorry and start over and abuse will never happen again. Also, both will become nice and charming to one another. The man will think that he will never hurt the woman again and so he will be nice. Now both will feel they have to take care of each other and soon the woman and the man will fight no more.
Most people, when they want to hurt other people, will do it in their own homes so no one will see them or try to stop them. The reason most people abuse other people is because they're on drugs, because they're in a great depression, or they can't stop the hurt. About two in every thousnd, people are abused. That's good but it's not the best that we can do. We need to do better!