Coping with Divorce
Nearly half of all marriges end in tragic divorce, and that number is growing
each day. Although many people don't realize it, the real victims of divorce are the parents' children.
Many teens have a difficult time understanding and dealing with a divorce in the family.
Its important to keep yourself from being used by one parents to manipulate, hurt or find
information about the other parent. If your parents are going through a
divorce it can be very helpful to ask your parents to follow a "bill of
rights" for yourself and your siblings. The following are some
suggestions of things to include in such a "bill of rights":
It's important to remember that when your parents are going through a divorce,
it is not your fault. It's normal to feel depressed
when your parents are going through a divorce, and to be sad that they are separating.
Try to talk to your parents about different aspects of their divorce to clear up any misunderstandings you may have.
Also, read through our articles on depression and anger to find other ways to deal with your emotions.
- Don't ask us to take sides
- Don't "grill" us on what happens at the ex's home.
- Do not turn us into messengers and ways to communicate with the ex.
- Do not insult the other parent around us; we still love them.
- Don't make us feel as though we are being disloyal if we enjoy spending time with the other parent.