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Let's Tweak Depression

Most Common Problems In Teenage Life

During our survey we asked our target audience to share their recent problems they are suffering from. Following are those problems. These problems strike teens during their teenage and become the major reason behind frequent stress and depression. Our expert shared their suggestions to tackle them.

• Question:

  Rajeshwari:
  Hello... I feel extremely tired nowadays, I don’t like talking much and I have reduced my diet too... I escape from my meals most often!!! Even after being fully prepared for the exams, I feel extremely nervous...and...not only is this in the case of exams...but, I get very much nervous in crowds...I like remaining lonely...always! How can I overcome this? Please help...
  16 Apr, 2011

  • Answer:

    Mrs. Archana Mahajan:
    It seems you are losing faith in yourself or it may be due to some hormonal fluctuation. Try to develop faith in yourself first. Say it to yourself ‘I can do this’ ‘I will do this’ ‘ I love myself very much and I will care for myself’. Repeat these things in your mind, write on your notebooks and see the change. This will not only enhance your confidence levels but also strengthens your will-power with which you can come out of any difficulty.
    16 Apr, 2011

     
   

• Question:

  Monika:
  Actually I am a good average student. I always stand in among first 5 toppers of the class, but the last exam conducted was really tough especially maths. I got good grades in every aspect but not in maths. My father scolded me for that a lot. But it didn’t ends here. He always gives me example of other students and poking me that I got very bad score in maths. He also didn’t bought me my mobile because someone had mistakenly sent me numerous messages. Also I don't have any privacy. I am very morally bounded and give importance to who do it to me or they may be very same as me. I had started not giving importance to my friends as they were not doing too. But soon they realized they were not doing right and came to me to speak. Even I had a very good friend who was very nice. But he started neglecting me. These issues haven't solved till now and I am a little bit relaxed. But was tensed when in the starting.
  16 Apr, 2011

  • Answer:

    Mrs. Archana Mahajan:
    Monika, you first have to decide it what you actually want for yourself. It is good that you are very good at your studies but you see emotional intelligence is also very important to cross this developmental stage. Surely your parents are not doing well by comparing you with others or scolding you, but you see after all they are your parents and nobody in the world could wish the best for you except them. You can always talk to them and tell them about your feelings.
    Don’t be tense. Try to find out what exactly you want, whether it is ok for you? Take responsibility of the results and go for it.
    16 Apr, 2011

     
   

• Question:

  Amritaa:
  My academic performance is decreasing. I'm easily distracted by something else. My family doesn't like my other qualities. They want me to do my best in my academics and study. I'm doing it....... and I'm still trying.
  16 Apr, 2011

  • Answer:

    Mrs. Archana Mahajan:
    Yeah, you are growing up and changing your interests and taste. It is good that you know the reason behind your decreasing performance. The answer or solution also lies with you. Try to concentrate and for this you should go for yoga and meditation which are very simple and natural ways to increase concentration on anything. I really appreciate you and I am sure that you will conquer your emotions and come out with flying colours.
    16 Apr, 2011

     
   

• Question:

  Jaypriya:
  It is really confusing, I know that whatever my parents do for me is good for me but still I sometimes unnecessarily have an argument with them, I don't like to listen to them always, sometimes I unnecessarily shout on my sister.
  16 Apr, 2011

  • Answer:

    Mrs. Archana Mahajan:
    You are very intelligent as you realize what you are doing is not ok. The reason behind may be the fluctuating hormonal level or heightening of emotions. But you must have studied the ‘Ripple Effect’. You can easily control your emotions. If you are finding it difficult, go for yoga, meditation, some exercise, walk or game whatever you like.
    You yourself will feel the change.
    16 Apr, 2011

     
   

• Question:

  Tiorys:
  Firstly, I have changed my school few weeks before and now I am experiencing many changes. I am feeling pressurized these days also I don't have much friends. They all are different from my older friends.
  Secondly, I get bored with my daily routine. Go to school, then back to home and study
  16 Apr, 2011

  • Answer:

    Mrs. Archana Mahajan:
    You have changed your school that means changed your old friends, teachers, atmosphere, and culture also. These are the reasons that you are feeling pressurized and which is very normal for everyone. It will take little time to adapt to the environment and it depends upon your adjustability power. More early you accept others , more quickly they will accept you. This is the funda for making new friends. But be careful, after all a man is known by the company he has.
    If you are getting bored from your daily routine, then try to change it. Going to school and homework completion is unavoidable but having some fun with your siblings, family, friends can always be done. The best way is to have some hobby and go for some game daily for sometime.
    16 Apr, 2011

     
   

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Quick Tweaks by Tweakers

Let's learn some easy, effective and instant ways.

Positions:

Harpreet Kaur (Coach) (1)
Ashish (1)
Deeksha (1)
Ocean (1)
Prerna (1)

• Prerna

  It is well said that an empty mind is the home of bad thoughts. If you are not doing anything and just sitting like a dormant one and thinking about your problems, it will certainly lead you to emergence of dreadful thoughts which will further lead to stress in you. The more you think about your problem the more you will be penetrating yourself into the well of stress. If you manage to engage yourself in activities like playing, reading, cooking or any of your hobby, then the chances for you to getting into stress will be contracted. In my case, whenever I feel sad I engaged myself with my favorite hobbies and thus I secure myself in getting into stress.
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• Deeksha

  Listen soothing songs
  If you feel stressed, listen sweat and soothing songs. This is a quick and very effective way to get rid from the mental strain. It always works for me. During those songs, I think about the problem intensely that why it happened and what can be done to fix it. And it even makes you feel sleepy. After the sleep you will feel fresh.
  18 Apr, 2011

   
  
  
• Ocean

  Changing Place.
  When strain gets me (which happens to me most of the time of exams). I just walk out of my room for ten minutes and sit on the bench in my park. It helps me get out of the negative pattern. One can also stroll down the road.
  17 Apr, 2011

   
  
  
• Ashish

  Laughter dose.
  Logon to YouTube and search for some funny clips. Apart from that, you can check out humorous SMSes, stories, comic strips or sharing a funny instance with colleagues.
  17 Apr, 2011

   
  
  
• Harpreet Kaur (Coach)

  Deep Breathing.
  First fill your lungs with fresh air and keep it for 3-4 second and then release it. Do this five to ten times. Whenever you are in some stressful situation, take a pause and try deep breathing, and let the tension drain from your muscles. Deep breathing is a very powerful and instant way to overcome mental strains.
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12 Stress-Busters

• 1. 
  Always keep negative thoughts away from you
• 2. 
  Never criticize yourself for your mistakes.
• 3. 
  Learn from your previous mistakes and try not to repeat them
• 4. 
  Do not compare yourself with others
• 5. 
  Find reasons to smile and laugh but with a healthy attitude only
• 6. 
  Maintain a track of your working schedule and stick with it. Include healthy habits in it like, exercising, morning walk, balanced diet, etc
• 7. 
  Believe in yourself and in your abilities
• 8. 
  Determine small goals everyday and try to achieve it. Determination will increase confidence in you.
• 9. 
  Adopt a healthy diet
• 10. 
  Keep learning something. Learning is what keeps us excited about life.
• 11. 
  Focus on the things that please you
• 12. 
  Eliminate time-wasters from your life.
  These are few points you should always try to maintain in yourselves. These points play an effective role in maintaining a healthy mind and healthy body. And stress can't strike easily a person having healthy routine.

Thoughts & suggestions by our target audience

During our survey, we asked our target audience:
"In order to reduce stress and depression from a teen's life what will you suggest/advise?"

These are few of the thoughts and suggestions by them.

• Sagrika:
  "Write all your feelings on a page and throw it away in sea or in dustbin"
  17 Apr, 2011

   
  
  

• Pragati:
  "I will suggest that god gives only one chance to live and we should live it cheerfully. I believe that teen’s life is the best age period of life. Never get stressed on what other people says.
  JUST DO WHAT YOU LOVE
  LOVE WHAT YOU DO!"
  17 Apr, 2011

   
  
  

• Arun:
  "Never give up...God is always there for you.....
  'THIS TIME IS NOT PERMENANT IN MY LIFE'
  Say this line when you are depressed or stressed, It will really work!"
  17 Apr, 2011

   
  
  

• M Arjun:
  "I suggest all to read the book 'POWER OF THE SUBCONCIOUS MIND' by Robin Sharma, a very good book. It helps to control emotions and stress. It really works!. It helped me too."
  17 Apr, 2011

   
  
  

• Priyanka:
  "Do friendship with your friends. No any other person trust you that much then your parents. Always share your feelings, your problems with them. You will feel better."
  17 Apr, 2011

   
  
  

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You Can Help Too!

Helping Depressed Loved-One: What You Can Do

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  Diagnosing Your Friend Or Loved-One
  The first and the most important thing you need to know is to diagnose your friend for depression. For this, you first need to understand about depression, its effects and symptoms. You may go through our project to understand depression. If you are still with some confusion, it is better to get an elder's advice. Talk about your friends' situation with a person on whom you trust.
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  Risk of Suicide is Genuine
  It is usual that a depressed person grows suicidal thoughts in him. This is because that depressed person is unable to see any other way out. Depression affects the thinking and judgments which makes him feel as suicide, the only way out. If you encounter such signs, for example, if he talks about suicide and death or expresses feelings of hopeless, then you should never take it lighter. You should become concern and seek professional help immediately.
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  Encouraging him to get help
  Try to talk to him about depression and help him understand that depression is a common illness among humans and is nothing to be ashamed about. Perhaps share this booklet with him. Then encourage him to see a doctor to determine the cause of these symptoms and obtain appropriate treatment.
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  Talk to him
  Sometimes a friend wishes to talk to someone, mostly in the situations when he feels sad or miserable. It is well advised at that time to listen him with concentration and without judging or giving advice. Depression most of the times creates a feeling of hiding the problems, in order to maintain their usual life. However, if he found someone careful towards himself, then he may open up, or express the desire to talk to you as a small hope. Take this situation as a golden chance to pull him out of depression. Try not to make him feel that he is wrong and don't convince him. Offer him emotional support. This involves patience, affection, and encouragement. Try to create a therapeutic environment. Invite him for walks, outings, to the movies, and other activities. Be gentle if your invitation is refused. Encourage him to participate in his favorite hobbies, but do not push him to undertake too much too soon. He will like to have company but too much demand may make him worse.
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  "REMEMBER!" Don't force hard
  Sometimes going back to the past and discussing about it makes the sufferer worse about himself. If he is not convinced to share his feelings, don't try to force him. He may feel frustrated. In such situations, try to seek professional help.