What role does the family play in the child’s psychical development? In what ways does the spiritual life influence the child?
I am Carol Squier, a Registered Nurse since 1966. I have worked in the areas of medical, surgical, pediatrics, obstetrics, lifestyle and nutrition. I have been involved in many areas of Health and Wellness. I became a vegetarian when I was 13 and have taught vegetarian cooking classes and lectured on health in Hospitals, Schools, on Radio and Television. I belonged to a Foundation for Health and Wellness of Moms and Children. In 2004 I began volunteer teaching at Medical Missionary Training Centers, in Moldova, Portugal, Romania and Germany. I have spent nearly 6 months in Eastern Europe in one year. I will be coming again April 3 to May 16th 2008, to Romania.
I believe the early years of childhood are the most formative. Education in areas of obedience, authority, values and integrity should begin very early. God has designed that the parents stand in place of God to their children until they are old enough to choose to have their own relationship with God and have a conviction and commitment to obey the laws of God, family and country. Character is developed in a great degree by the age of seven years old. A child under three must learn obedience and to submit to authority or theirs will be lifelong struggle of disobedience and rebellion. A child needs to be taught the importance of truthfulness, honesty, prompt obedience to have a life of integrity and success.
Infants need to have love and physical contact to grow emotionally healthy and secure. The more they are loved, within the limits of boundaries, the more they will be able to behave in healthy relationships. Children need time. They need attention. They do not need to be the center of attention, but to be included as a significant part of the family, as a whole.
Teenagers who have had love and acceptance and been taught about God, and his Love, and shown His character will have a much easier time with the challenges of growing and changes. They will be less influenced by their peers and be able to be a blessing to other youth who have not had the same blessings growing up that they have had in understanding of Love. All true love is from God and is a reflection of His character. Many people of noble character and integrity have been influenced by the Love and character of God, even without knowing Him. They have been taught principles and values that are in line with the character of God even though they do not recognize the source and who they reflect.
The parents determine how the child will see itself, and how it will relate to others and to God. Children learn respect by being treated with love and respect. Children learn from what they see in their parents and those adults about them while very young. When they go to school, their teachers and their peers have a great influence on them and it can be for their good or for their destruction of character.
Parents are the foundation for the child, whether it is good or bad. God is our ultimate foundation and security but children learn about God and His character from the way they are treated and what they see.
At all ages of life children need time and interaction with their parents and extended family. When children are denied this relationship it affects them the rest of their life. Yes, they can overcome the hurts, the rejection and pain, but it is time consuming process that is best to be spared by giving them security and unconditional love at all ages.
Carol Squier, RN
5638 Barrington Country Estates
Collegedale, TN 37363