As a child physical abuse (RIS)
is defined as the use of violence, systematic or temporary and is given to
children in eighteen years, with physical force by parents (kicking, pinch,
bite, shock-shocks, blows to the face) and or use the objects throwing children
(off smoke in the body, hit with a belt). The result in each case remains the
same ... much pain, physical and mental, unanswered questions in the child and
of course many and perhaps irreparable injury. The main perpetrators are
usually parents or other close relatives of the environment of children.
Unfortunately, physical punishment is common and accepted practice for the discipline of children in several countries and it is well known in our country. The implementation and acceptance of corporal punishment is directly related to the attitudes and perceptions of parents and society at large in the ways of raising children.
According to guide studies in the world, parents who abused their children may face:
Severe mental illnesses such as depression, personality disorder, psychosis and even more rarely.
Limited cognitive abilities.
A large degree of difficulty to manage to control the aggressive outbursts of anger.
Feeling deep failure for themselves and their role as parents.
Strong need to feel dependency and attention from others leading to «see» the children as a source of caring and deep commitment and identification with their children to have a role towards the parents.
Poor relationships with their parents as children. Most parents who have been abused themselves victims of abuse when they were children. Through the abuse of their children - not understand - control and relieve their children's wounds. An abused child may become a violent parent in the future.
The parents who abused rarely shown encouraging towards their children. The advise and guide less compared with other parents and their inalienable rights and deprive them like the game. On the other hand, may refer a bad way for their child and to attribute negative designations as: «difficult», «bad», «problematic» which means that unconsciously they have been consulted for their children is none other than they have for themselves. Too often the abuse or neglect coexist with the deprivation of essential goods for the development of the child, such as inadequate feeding conditions and deprived / non-eating, lack of school performance, etc.
The effects of physical abuse during the first infant and childhood mainly with strong crying and outbursts of intense anger not simmer down easily and the children appear and impatiently demanding. In later childhood and adolescence children have suffered physical violence or subject to:
o scared and cautious attitude towards others. Seem to recede in the possibility of physical contact or touching, especially when you see sudden movement eg raising hand.
o Strong psychomotor restlessness and hyper-mobility
o depressive symptoms such as low self-appraisal, distress, distressed, apathy.
o Low school performance and even learning difficulties as a result of the psychic pain experienced.
o Conduct Disorders. The intense anger and aggression in abused children may occur with: reactive or aggressive behaviour towards peers or the larger, destructive behaviour in toys or other objects, self-aggressive attitude towards oneself with suicide attempts, self, use of drugs. Also, pain and anger from abuse may exoterikeftei with antisocial behaviour and violation of ethical rules and the same legal framework. In some cases children may show pseudo-maturity and may pay too much effort to be loved and accepted by others with the hidden hope to accept and to love their parents. In doing this to become popular and entertaining, children showing exemplary, and forced tame attitude and perfection.
What to do if there is suspicion and / or indications that a child is physical abuse?
1. Inform the competent authorities (public prosecutor, police) that the child be admitted to hospital, diagnosed to abuse by doctors and treat any injuries that have occurred.
2. After an incident of abuse complaint assisted by a multidisciplinary team (child psychiatrists, child sociologist social worker, pediatrician) in child and family if necessary while the child is transported in a secure residence within (kid town , hostel), away from their parents.
3. At the same legal issues are settled, such as removal (temporary or not) the custody of the child from their parents.
It is important to emphasize that «no wood came from Heaven» and that the abuse of a child affects us all. Besides the children do not belong to anyone beyond their own self. Children are the future of the world and we must ensure calm and happy baby souls, without pain and fear. Perhaps this sounds simple but in reality is the biggest achievement we need to achieve...
Writer: Panayota Fragkomichalou