Invitation for this ceremony mostly happen on the night of the wedding when guest's are about to leave. It's done by bride's mother some newly weds invite the guests to their Patakhty by adding its date an their wedding cards but it's not proper to do so couse it many be misunderstood. For expecting the gusts to bring gifts.
Serving dinner on this ceremony is not a custom because during lots of often ceremonies before and after the wedding both groom's and bride's families are tired.
And we Iranians are believing in this that for first few months the newly weds are not expected to have a part or serve the guests. And by this theory families and relatives one by one are going to hold a party for newly weds.
Buying the necessary edibles for Patakhti. Should be done during shopping fruits and sweets for the wedding .
Because after the luxurious wedding there is no time or potency to start preparation for Patakhti. Because Patakhti is the day after the wedding all the fruits and sweets are fresh and can be used.
These edibles can be send with newly weds the night of the wedding or tomorrow morning before arrived of guests.
It is possible to separate fruits and sweets of weeding from Patakhti's . so In this cues we should wash those fruits and boxes of sweets shouldn't be opened.
This many happen if the number of guests in the wedding is not higher than amount of the edibles. So we must make sure of this Welcoming Guest.
By entering each guest bride her mother groom's mother sister of both sides should welcome the guest.
And guest should thank the both families for holding luxurious the wedding. And wish bride and groom a happy life.
Host should thank them back and they will answer " By help of god we hope you always . present in joyful events."
"Pour presence make we happy." "We hope that some day soon in your joyful events we pay you back." Then guest give the bride their gifts and kiss her. (They should be careful of bride's make up and hair while doing that ) It is recommended that it's better not to hold the bride tightly and only kiss her forehead.
Arrival of guests. While leading the guests into their proper sits. We should consider their aye in a way that elders sit in a best and upper sits available in the house.
After entrance of the guests we should consider these points :
- leading the guests are done by bride's and groom's sister.
- For older guests its better to help them if there are any steps or even accompany them in and out of the house.
This is better done by younger female relatives.
- on of the younger female realties should take all the clothing's scarf's.
- mantos or raincoat's of the guest and put them in a proper place.
-One girl should be responsible for guests gifts. In order to tulce and place them in an appointed place.
-one of the girls should accept he tusk of bringing tea for newcomers-treat all the guests with affability and hospitality and do not discriminate.