Mirko is Maarten's best friend. He's 16 years old and lives in Almere. When he was four years old, ovary cancer was identified by his mother. This life-threatening disease needed to be stopped as soon as possible. Operations started to prevent more disseminations.
It isn't common that ovary cancer is found in an early stadium. The ovaries are small organs and are hided in the inner part of the abdominal cavity. Due to this cavity, it's very difficult to recognise changes and purposeful investigations for an early recognition do not exist yet.
When there is a suspicion of ovary cancer an operation is very essential, and the most important way of treatment. It is necessary to remove the complete tumor tissue. Most of the time an extensive intervention is necessary. The tumor should be totally removed after this intervention. But the doctors didn't see the disseminations in her guts and kidneys. For this reason the cancer was grown in a way that it couldn't be cured any more.
Mirko was nine years old when he heard something which no child should hear. His mother had been very open from the beginning, and told him that there would be a day that she wouldn't be there anymore for the children. Afterwards Mirko appreciated this a lot. According to Mirko talking is the only solution to come to terms, as long as you can deal with it.
His mother chose to enjoy her life as much as she could. She has had several chemotherapies to stay as long as possible with her children, and so that she could enjoy her life for the last years.
She took care of all her financial things in an earlier stadium, so that she didn't had to do that her last year. Mirko went on holiday and winter sport with his family to get positive unforgettable memories.
His mother was a very social person, and there was always somebody who took care of him. “I grew up with it, and I've always been talking because corking everything up is the worst way to grieve. For example crying, you definitely should not be afraid to cry. Many people think: I don't have to talk about it, but then it will follow you in your memories. You find out how worse it still is if you talk about it. In the past I talked a lot with my family. My sister has been very important for me. “
" Everyone knew that my mother was ill at my primary school. I wasn't treated in another way. You will see it if someone wants to talk about it. The worst thing you can do as a friend is to act whether nothing is going on. Something is going on, and especially in the beginning you feel like shit. I think that you can feel it, if someone wants to talk about it. If it's very sensitive yet, it isn't a good idea to start even if it's meant okay. But just be there for the person. It's the best to talk with your family about it, because they know what is going on, and can imagine your feelings and emotions. "
Mirko thinks that he's in the last stage of dealing with the death of his mother. He can talk about it in a relaxed way. Mirko has a good intention and likes to help other youngsters who are in the same position as he was. A noble goal for which he should deserve more.